I was talking to an author recently who was complaining that she could never get anything done at home (in regards to her writing). She was telling me how if she goes to the library she can get a ton done in a very short time, but if she tries to write at home she’s constantly pestered and bothered by someone needing something. Unfortunately, she can’t necessarily commit to going to the library daily.
So being the kind and sympathetic person I am I told her that was her own fault.
Somewhere along the way she never set boundaries with those around her and with herself. She never made them see her writing as a job and a priority. In truth, she never treated it as a job and priority herself.
If you really want to get serious about your writing, to make it your job, then you need to treat every aspect of it that way. If you are lucky enough to find a place in your home that can serve as an office then make it that way. It means when you are in your office, the door is closed and you are at work. Unless there’s blood and a 911 call involved no one can bother you. Not should bother you, they are not allowed to bother you.
When you first establish this rule it’s going to be tough. It’s likely your kids will bother you because they can’t get the top off the milk or your husband will need help remembering his Facebook password or the dog will need to go out. Again. If you help them, they’ll keep coming. If you adamantly state that you’re working and they will have to wait until you’re done they will eventually get the picture. Better yet, don’t respond. You are in your office, you can’t hear them. You’ve stated the guidelines so ignoring is probably the best response. It will take some adjusting for everyone, but once those boundaries are set you will be able to get writing done.
One of the things I also mentioned to this author is for this to really work she also needs to respect the boundaries of her family and others around her. In other words, if she has established “office hours” than she needs to respect the time that are “unoffice hours”. In other words, that means if you’re ignoring everyone while you’re in the office, then you need to pay attention to them when you’re not. It means you can’t decide that today you’re going to work at the dining room table, with everyone running around, and get annoyed when they are asking for a glass of water or the wireless login information. You need to need to take that time to be present. It will make it a heck of a lot easier when you ask them to leave you alone.