As I mentioned last week, this has not been an easy challenge for me and not for reasons I think many would expect.
I went into the challenge in the hopes of finding ways to push myself out of my comfort zone by asking for things I might normally not ask for. I wasn’t keen on the idea of asking for things like a ride in a police car or $100 from a stranger. That just didn’t make sense and seemed silly rather than practical. My hope was to grow and become better at what I already do, so I kept the challenged focused on my current lifestyle.
For the first two weeks I made an effort to ask for things, but that petered out, primarily because I didn’t want to make additional work for myself. Life is already too hectic and it seemed silly to go out of my way to Starbucks just to ask if I could buy coffee for someone. So instead I kept the challenge in the back of my mind while doing everyday tasks. Anytime I got that flutter of nervousness about anything I pushed myself a bit more. It meant saying “no” instead of yes, asking for a more or pushing someone who said no to maybe say yes.
There’s no doubt the challenge changed me. I find that I’m working a little differently. I’m making more phone calls and I’m making more lists. I’ve been a little more aggressive in my work and home life on things that I might normally have let slide. All of that is good.
On the other hand, I’ve also learned that maybe I didn’t really need a challenge like this, that for the most part I’m really not all that afraid of rejection. I’ve always been the sort of person to challenge authority and the way things have always been. Ask contract directors throughout publishing. I drive them crazy.
I’m glad I did the #BeatRejection challenge and I’m really glad it’s over.