Writing is a solitary and often isolating vocation. Even more so when you don’t have the support of friends and family.
I was lucky when I started BookEnds, my closest family supported me. I can’t say the same unfortunately about all the people in my life. In fact, I can think of at least one friend I lost partly because of BookEnds.
We can’t really explain why people can’t or won’t support us. I chalked some of it up to jealousy. With other people, it seemed like they were upset they couldn’t control me, or maybe that I was doing something they couldn’t understand.
I’m not sure why your friends and family don’t support your writing and at the end of the day, it really doesn’t matter. It’s not your problem to solve. The only concern you have is taking care of yourself and that includes finding the support you deserve.
If your sister doesn’t seem to want to hear about your book or promote it to her friends and family so be it. Instead of obsessing over a lack of support, focus on those people who are giving it.
Writers groups can be among the most supportive people I’ve ever met. If you haven’t had the pleasure of attending a national writing award ceremony in person I suggest you search for them on YouTube. Listen to the cheers an author gets from their critique partners and instantly you’re going to know where the real support comes from.
Friends and family don’t always understand the writing or publishing process and maybe they’re not meant to. Maybe this lack of support you’re feeling is the push you need to take your writing to the next level and find the group who will be there for you.
It hurts when we don’t find support from those closest to us. You should give yourself time to grieve that, but you should not let it control you. Finding another group, finding your people, will not only boost you up, but it might just give those naysayers the time they need to come around.